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My First Step Towards Becoming The\u00a0World’s Most\u00a0Successful Online Dater (and how you can learn from my mistake!)<\/b><\/h1>\n

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By Joshua Pompey[\/vc_column_text][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][vc_column_text]\"\"[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”row” use_row_as_full_screen_section=”no” type=”full_width” angled_section=”no” text_align=”left” background_image_as_pattern=”without_pattern” css_animation=””][vc_column][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][vc_column_text]When I first tried to meet women on dating sites over a decade ago, online dating crippled my self esteem.<\/p>\n

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No matter what I tried, not a single woman would respond to my emails.\u00a0 Online dating made me feel ugly, insecure, and absolutely shattered my self esteem.<\/p>\n

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\"Joshua<\/p>\n

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But look at me now… I married the woman of my dreams (depicted\u00a0above\u00a0– yes that’s me accidentally proposing to myself!) and I have literally been referred to on television as the best online dater in the world.<\/p>\n

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I know\u00a0referencing that I’ve been called\u00a0 “the best online dater in the world”\u00a0sounds completely lame, but I have to prove my worth to you somehow right?\u00a0 There are a whole lot of pretenders out there giving\u00a0misguided online dating advice!<\/p>\n

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So how did I go from\u00a0arguably the\u00a0world’s worst online dater to\u00a0the world’s\u00a0most successful online dater?<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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I eventually came to the realization that I just didn’t understand how to attract women online<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Even worse, I was continuously doing the exact opposite<\/em> of what I should have been doing.\u00a0 I was always trying to nice guy my way into\u00a0the dating life of a woman.\u00a0 Instead of making women\u00a0feel\u00a0<\/em>attracted to me, I was trying to convince them that they\u00a0should\u00a0<\/em>be attracted to me.<\/p>\n

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I’d literally tell\u00a0women that if they would just give me a chance,\u00a0they’d see that I was worth going out with.\u00a0 Talk about pathetic!\u00a0 If you’ve done this, believe me I get it.\u00a0 I’ve been there.<\/p>\n

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When that didn’t work, I tried things that were\u00a0completely inauthentic to who I was as a person.\u00a0 I tried being the bad boy, the mysterious guy, the arrogant guy, the counterculture guy… You name it, I tried it.\u00a0 Nothing worked.<\/p>\n

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I had to go back to the drawing board.\u00a0 If I was going to be successful on dating sites, I needed to\u00a0take an intellectual approach to online dating, understand what women responded to, and work from there.<\/p>\n

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Fast forward a few months and everything\u00a0slowly fell\u00a0into place.\u00a0 While I could write an entire\u00a0dissertation\u00a0on what I’ve learned, let’s get a little bit into the basics.<\/p>\n

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Attraction is Not A Choice<\/strong><\/p>\n

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One of the most important lessons I could ever teach you is that attraction is not a choice. Women don\u2019t consciously decide to feel an attraction towards you. It just happens instantly.<\/p>\n

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To put things in perspective; think about the last time you saw a beautiful, curvy woman walking down the street (perhaps you were\u00a0lucky enough to see Emily Ratajkowski<\/a> depicted above!). Odds are you turned and did a double take when she walked by.<\/p>\n

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You didn\u2019t stop and think to yourself, \u201cHmmm… am I attracted to this woman?\u201d It just happened instantly. This reaction to a beautiful woman is no more controllable than hunger or pain. It\u2019s purely instinctual.<\/p>\n

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Luckily for all us men out there, attraction is not a choice for women either. But it gets better. While men are mainly wired to respond to a woman\u2019s visual appearance, women are wired to respond much more to a man\u2019s internal qualities and personality traits.<\/p>\n

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When a woman see\u2019s a man with certain qualities, such as ambition, social value, alpha male characteristics,\u00a0or social intelligence, just to name a few, she will instantly feel attracted to that man, the same way we instantly feel attracted to a beautiful woman walking down the street. She won\u2019t stop to think about why, nor will she care. It is a chemical reaction that can\u2019t be controlled.<\/p>\n

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Over the years I\u2019ve discovered that there are many fundamental qualities that nearly all women naturally respond to, all having absolutely nothing to do with the looks a man is born with.\u00a0 And within these fundamental qualities, there are countless ways to demonstrate them online.<\/p>\n

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All we have to do is subtly infuse these attraction triggers into every statement we write and every picture we post online. If we do this properly, when women view our profiles and emails they will feel an instant attraction that is beyond their control, regardless of the looks we were born with. It\u2019s not magic. It\u2019s the science of understanding how attraction works.<\/p>\n

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Believe me when I say that I’ve helped countless men who were born with below average looks to land more dates in one month than they’ve had in the past ten years.<\/p>\n

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The Science of Attraction<\/strong><\/p>\n

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So why exactly are men more visual than women when it comes to attraction?\u00a0 This can be directly attributed to evolutionary instincts that are hardwired into our D.N.A.<\/p>\n

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Throughout the evolution of mankind, the man\u2019s role has always been to hunt and ensure the survival of the human race through pro-creation. Women with wide hips, curvy bodies, and healthy looking faces were the most likely to produce a healthy baby, so over time, men naturally developed instincts to feel attracted to these types of women the most.<\/p>\n

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To this day, nothing has changed. The world may look much different, but the fundamental purpose of a man remains – to successfully produce offspring. And so, men are still hard-wired to seek out women who are curvy and conventionally beautiful. When we see women who meet these descriptions, we instantly feel attracted to them without even thinking about it.<\/p>\n

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For women, survival was much different. It was not dependent on a man\u2019s beauty. It was dependent on partnering with men who could ensure the best chance of survival.\u00a0 For this reason, women are wired to gravitate much more towards a man’s internal qualities and personality traits.<\/p>\n

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Now this doesn’t mean your looks don’t matter at all.\u00a0 If you look like a slob and don’t take care of yourself, it creates the impression that you are lazy,\u00a0have little\u00a0social intelligence, and lack drive (all attraction killers).\u00a0 But once you put together the right haircut (or clean up properly if you are balding) and put together the right style, you will be able to build attraction online with just about any woman you want.<\/p>\n

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So how do we build attraction properly with women online?\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Let’s start with\u00a0learning 5\u00a0fundamental methods for building attraction, all backed by science.\u00a0 Click here to read more<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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You can also follow me on twitter<\/a>, facebook<\/a>, or youtube<\/a>\u00a0for exclusive free content and advice<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Ready to end your online dating frustrations once and for all?\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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Since 2009, I’ve helped tens of thousands of men worldwide master online dating. Now, all that expertise is available to you in my proudest achievement yet\u2014The Joshua Pompey Masterclass<\/a>. Backed by a risk-free guarantee, it’s your turn to transform your dating life. Click here to get started today<\/a>!<\/p>\n

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You can also call us anytime at 888-511-0645 and we’d be happy to chat with you.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”row” use_row_as_full_screen_section=”no” type=”full_width” angled_section=”no” text_align=”left” background_image_as_pattern=”without_pattern” css_animation=””][vc_column][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”row” use_row_as_full_screen_section=”no” type=”full_width” angled_section=”no” text_align=”left” background_image_as_pattern=”without_pattern” css_animation=””][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n

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