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21 Emailing\u00a0Tips That\u00a0Will SkyRocket Your Response Rate:\u00a0\u00a0How To Message Women Online Like A Pro<\/h1>\n

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By Joshua Pompey[\/vc_column_text][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][vc_column_text]\"Beautiful<\/p>\n

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Your email is your first attempt at communication on a dating site.\u00a0 If you want women\u00a0to respond, you need to\u00a0learn how to message women\u00a0online properly.<\/p>\n

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In this article I will be discussing 21 fundamental rules for writing emails that\u00a0lead to results![\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”row” use_row_as_full_screen_section=”no” type=”full_width” angled_section=”no” text_align=”left” background_image_as_pattern=”without_pattern” css_animation=””][vc_column][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 \u00a0Never open with small talk<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Women online have been asked the same repetitive questions hundreds of times.\u00a0 If you want them to notice your email, you have to get creative and put a little effort into your message.<\/p>\n

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The most common message women receive\u00a0on dating sites\u00a0is some variation of “what’ up?” or “how is your week going?”<\/p>\n

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This type of conversation is painfully boring, leaves no room for the conversation to evolve into something more interesting, and communicates to a woman that you are a boring guy (even if that’s completely false!).<\/p>\n

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\u00a02.\u00a0\u00a0Focus on building a connection<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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When you write your first email, don’t just focus on something she cares about.\u00a0 Focus on something you\u00a0both<\/em>\u00a0care about.<\/p>\n

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She may be a passionate dancer, but\u00a0this isn’t the greatest building block for establishing a connection if you can’t dance to save your life.<\/p>\n

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By tapping into commonalities that you share, you are going to generate more excitement, and are building\u00a0the foundation for a potential relationship down the road.<\/p>\n

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The more unique the commonality\u00a0that you share is, the more effective it will be.\u00a0 As a rule of thumb, think of your first email as being about “us,” not about “her.”<\/p>\n

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3.\u00a0 Your email should be quick and to the point<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Attention spans are limited these days.\u00a0 Even one paragraph is too long for\u00a0a first email.<\/p>\n

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As a rule of thumb, your email should take no longer than\u00a015-30 seconds to read and should be 2-4 sentences max.\u00a0 For a\u00a0highly effective emailing template<\/a>, click here.<\/p>\n

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4.\u00a0 Don’t sacrifice quality at the expense of length<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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While you want to keep your emails short and easy to read, you also want to pack a whole lot of punch into the limited words that you choose.<\/p>\n

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There is an art to writing an email that is concise,\u00a0while still leaving a big impact.\u00a0 This will take a bit of practice, but always try to get the most mileage out of your words.<\/p>\n

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5.\u00a0\u00a0Humor is your best strength<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Making a woman laugh in your opening email is the quickest way to separate yourself from the\u00a0competition and provide value to her life.<\/p>\n

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By making her laugh, you are creating an enjoyable experience on her behalf, helping her to break away from the repetitive nature of online dating, and showing that you are a fun guy.<\/p>\n

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If she thinks you are a fun guy based on your emails, she will likely make the leap into thinking you will make a fun first date as well.<\/p>\n

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6.\u00a0 Cocky Humor Works Best<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Being cocky funny means that you are being playfully arrogant with the jokes you make.\u00a0 The keyword here is playfully.\u00a0 If you come across as actually being arrogant as opposed to being playful and flirtatious, this will backfire.<\/p>\n

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An example of cocky humor on a date would be, “So what are you buying me for dinner… (wait for her to laugh or playfully respond)… wait, you didn’t know?\u00a0 Women take me out… I thought you knew that or I never would have agreed to this date… (laugh, smile, and communicate with body language that you are playing around).”<\/p>\n

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In an email we can use this same style of humor, again, just make sure it is clear that you are playing.<\/p>\n

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Finally, avoid any self-deprecating humor or overly sarcastic humor.\u00a0 Sarcasm doesn’t always translate well online and self-deprecating humor will lower your value.\u00a0 We want to appear confident at all times.<\/p>\n

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7.\u00a0 Adjust the tone of your email to your audience.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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The tone of your email should be adjusted to the type of woman you are messaging.\u00a0 For example, suppose you saw the profile picture of a woman who is dressed a bit on the scandalous side.\u00a0\u00a0 Your email should have a flirtatious tone to it and an extremely casual vibe.\u00a0\u00a0Always consider your audience before firing that first message.<\/p>\n

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8.\u00a0 Always take the opportunity to flirt<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Flirting by definition is communicating interest through your words or body language, usually in a playful manner.\u00a0 Men who are great with women are\u00a0constantly\u00a0flirting.\u00a0 This shows confidence, makes the interactions more fun, and often helps to strengthen the chase.<\/p>\n

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In addition to communicating interest, flirting communicates that you\u00a0have the confidence and\u00a0social intelligence to pursue a high a caliber woman.<\/p>\n

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9.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>Every email must end with a\u00a0call to action<\/h3>\n

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Whether you use a question mark or an ellipsis, the last sentence of your opening email should be a call to action.<\/p>\n

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High quality women receive a lot of\u00a0interest online.\u00a0 A call to action makes it infinitely easier for\u00a0a woman to respond to your email, making it much more likely she will.<\/p>\n

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If you don’t end your email with a call to action, you are putting all the work on her shoulders to figure out how to continue the conversation.\u00a0 The more you make a woman work to engage with you, the less likely she will.<\/p>\n

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10.\u00a0 Your email should not require deep thinking<\/h3>\n

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Writing\u00a0an interesting question\u00a0is not the same as asking a\u00a0deep thinking question.\u00a0 Many men get this confused.<\/p>\n

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If your\u00a0question requires a woman to think hard about what she\u00a0would write back, even if it’s a great question, she will likely move on to the next message.<\/p>\n

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11.\u00a0\u00a0Never ask more than one question per email<\/h3>\n

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Asking too many questions will have multiple negative effects.\u00a0 For starters, it will feel like homework to the woman reading\u00a0your email.<\/p>\n

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Just think about it from their perspective.\u00a0 Would you want to answer 3 or 4 questions in the middle of your busy day or after a long and exhausting day\u00a0of work?<\/p>\n

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In addition, filling an email with multiple questions will come across as too eager and may unintentionally make you appear desperate.\u00a0 Stick to one question or call to action per email.<\/p>\n

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12.\u00a0 Presentation Matters<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Emails should be visually\u00a0appealing to the reader.\u00a0 Just look at how this article is written.<\/p>\n

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If I wrote long paragraphs for each emailing tip, the presentation would make reading this article feel too difficult.<\/p>\n

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By making\u00a0this article easy on the eyes and presenting\u00a0the information in a user friendly manner, it\u00a0feels much easier to digest.\u00a0 Never write a long big paragraph for your opening email (or follow up emails).<\/p>\n

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13.\u00a0 Emoji’s, exclamation points, and “lol’s” need to be used properly<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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These devices should be used to create the right tone when you are establishing a playful or flirtatious vibe.\u00a0 However, they need to be used sparingly.<\/p>\n

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Filling your email with multiple lol’s, emojis, or exclamation points will come across\u00a0a bit too\u00a0feminine for most women.\u00a0\u00a0Don’t overdue it.<\/p>\n

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14.\u00a0 Use language that convey’s confidence<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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The word’s you choose will reveal a whole lot about you.\u00a0 Suppose I wrote an email that said, “Would you like to go out sometime?”\u00a0 It’s not exactly confident.\u00a0 I’m putting all the power in a woman’s hands and I’m communicating that I’m not sure if she will want to.<\/p>\n

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Instead I could say, “You seem like you could be a fun date.\u00a0 I’m not sure if we’d get along in person, but let’s meet up sometime soon and figure it out.\u00a0 Shoot me a text when you free up xxx-xxx-xxxxx.”<\/p>\n

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Now I’m asking a woman out with extreme confidence, am taking charge of the situation, and using language that refers to us meeting as something that will inevitably happen, as opposed to questioning it.\u00a0 Finally, by saying that I’m not sure if we’d get along in person, I’m showing that I’m the one in control and creating a chase.\u00a0 She is the one who has to qualify herself to me.<\/p>\n

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15.\u00a0 Avoid\u00a0beta language<\/h3>\n

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Beta language involves using any words that communicate a lack of confidence or desperation.\u00a0 The words, “if,” “hope,” and\u00a0 “want” are some of the most common offenders.<\/p>\n

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Always write in a manner that shows you are are confident you will get the girl.\u00a0 This can\u00a0easily be done without<\/em> looking arrogant.<\/p>\n

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16.\u00a0\u00a0Do Not Try to Quality Yourself<\/h3>\n

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You shouldn’t be seeking a woman’s approval in a first date.\u00a0\u00a0Never say that you “hope<\/em> to hear from her” or say “if<\/em>\u00a0you are interested, I’d love to chat.”\u00a0 In addition, don’t write anything that makes it seem like you are holding her up on a pedestal.<\/p>\n

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I hold my\u00a0wife (whom I met online) up on a pedestal all the time (I’m am well aware she is a more giving, selfless, and attractive person than I am!), but if I\u00a0held her up on a pedestal in the first email I sent her, I never would have gotten to the second email.<\/p>\n

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17.\u00a0 Avoid complimenting a woman’s physical appearance<\/h3>\n

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Beautiful woman are constantly being complimented on their beauty.\u00a0\u00a0Sure it’s nice\u00a0for a woman to hear compliments from family, friends, and co-workers, but you aren’t any of these things yet.\u00a0 You are still a complete stranger.<\/p>\n

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Complimenting a woman’s appearance\u00a0without knowing her will seem\u00a0desperate,\u00a0might make her wonder what your priorities are, and in some cases, will seem creepy.\u00a0 \u00a0If a woman\u00a0doesn’t know you yet, make her feel valued based on her internal qualities.\u00a0 Once you get to know her, then you can ease into some compliments based on looks.<\/p>\n

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18.\u00a0\u00a0Open with a “mistake.”<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Suppose I\u00a0opened my first email with the following:<\/p>\n

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Oh my god, why are you so fat…<\/p>\n

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I mean fat…<\/p>\n

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Oh my god autocorrect!<\/p>\n

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FAR, why are you so far away!?\u00a0 Wow, autocorrect.\u00a0 I promise… I’m actually one of seven guys on here that isn’t verbally abusive to women…\u00a0 LOL<\/p>\n

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Something like this could start the conversation on a fun note\u00a0filled with a whole lot of laughter.\u00a0 She will probably laugh about this later on with her friends as well, making the encounter extremely memorable.<\/p>\n

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19.\u00a0 Check Your Work<\/h3>\n

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Your grammar and spelling reveal more about you than you might think.\u00a0 If a woman reads an email containing poor grammar and spelling, at the minimum, she will think you are uneducated.<\/p>\n

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An even bigger concern is that she will subconsciously assume you are lazy.\u00a0 If you can’t even put effort into writing an email, why would she believe that you’d put effort into a relationship one day?<\/p>\n

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20.\u00a0 Let her qualify herself<\/h3>\n

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Earlier we talked about\u00a0NOT qualifying ourselves.\u00a0 We also want to have women qualify themselves to us.\u00a0 Letting a woman qualify herself means that you are putting yourself in a position where she is the one chasing you.\u00a0 This is\u00a0something that alphas naturally do.<\/p>\n

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Suppose a woman\u00a0wrote in her profile that she loves EDM music\u00a0and that she is a master at schooling people in skeeball at dive bars.\u00a0 I could write something along the lines of:<\/p>\n

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“I have to admit, you’re kind of off to a bad start with\u00a0the whole EDM passion, but I feel like we at least need to settle whose the best skeeball player before we officially go our separate ways…\u00a0 I’ll tell you what, if you manage to beat me on our first date, I will listen to 3 songs of your choosing and let you make your case for EDM being great music… \ud83d\ude09 ”<\/p>\n

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In this email I am making her qualify herself through playful banter, am being flirtatious (another benefit), am\u00a0creating a fun and playful tone in the email, and am tapping into something we both enjoy.\u00a0 These are\u00a0all components of a winning email.<\/p>\n

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21.\u00a0 You can’t nice-guy your way into a response<\/h3>\n

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Writing an email that declares you are a really nice guy or trying to convince a woman why she should give you a chance will never work.\u00a0 Attraction is something that needs to be felt.\u00a0 It is not a choice nor something that you could convince a woman to feel.<\/p>\n

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Looking for more free advice?\u00a0 Learning how to message\u00a0women online is only part of the battle<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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