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15 Reasons Women\u00a0Aren’t Responding On Dating Sites:\u00a0 The Critical Mistakes You Need to Avoid<\/h1>\n

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By Joshua Pompey[\/vc_column_text][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][vc_column_text]\"why<\/p>\n

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If women aren’t responding to you on dating sites, don’t panic.\u00a0 I’ve\u00a0been helping men to turn to their online dating lives around for over a decade.<\/p>\n

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In\u00a0most cases, it’s simply a matter of making a few adjustments and correcting the mistakes (often unintentional) that are destroying your chances with women online.<\/p>\n

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In this article I am going to review 15 of the\u00a0most common\u00a0mistakes that I typically see.\u00a0 If you fall into\u00a0one or more\u00a0of the categories below, start making some immediate adjustments.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”row” use_row_as_full_screen_section=”no” type=”full_width” angled_section=”no” text_align=”left” background_image_as_pattern=”without_pattern” css_animation=””][vc_column][vc_separator type=”transparent” up=”20″ down=”20″][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 You are being too nice<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"woman<\/p>\n

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It’s true that women want to meet a nice guy.\u00a0 But\u00a0they need to get to know you first before you become the sweetest guy on match.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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If you create the\u00a0persona of a man who will bend over backwards to treat\u00a0a woman like a princess, you will\u00a0appear to be a pushover and will come across as desperate.\u00a0 Women like a little bit of a chase.<\/p>\n

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This does not mean you have to become\u00a0an inauthentic jerk, attempting to create the persona of a bad boy.\u00a0 Just try to find the line between nice and too nice.\u00a0 Appearing to be a nice guy is a good thing.\u00a0 Being aggressively in your\u00a0face\u00a0nice is not.<\/p>\n

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2.\u00a0 You Are\u00a0Boring<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"bored<\/p>\n

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Okay so YOU aren’t actually boring.\u00a0 But your profile, emails, and photos might be.\u00a0 Always remember that there is endless competition on dating sites.\u00a0 If you don’t work your hardest to be interesting, women\u00a0won’t respond to you.\u00a0 It’s that simple.<\/p>\n

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The good news is, the majority of men\u00a0on dating sites bore women to tears.\u00a0 Once you step up your effort and become more interesting, your competition will become your best asset and help you to\u00a0stand out even more.<\/p>\n

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3.\u00a0 You Are Using Beta Language<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"beta<\/p>\n

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Alpha males write profiles and emails that ooze confidence with every word.\u00a0 They create the feel of a man who is interesting and worth getting to know.<\/p>\n

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If you are using beta language, you are unintentionally sending signals that you are desperate, lonely, a pushover, or seeking the approval of a woman.\u00a0 \u00a0The most common offenders are\u00a0phrases that include the words “hope,” “if,” “want,” and “need.”<\/p>\n

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For example, there is a big difference between stating, “I want a woman who is smart, intelligent, and fun…” and “The perfect woman for me would be smart, intelligent, and fun.”\u00a0 The first puts you in the chasing position and comes across as needy, whereas the latter puts you in the driver’s seat as a confident man.<\/p>\n

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4.\u00a0 You flunked the profile writing exam<\/h3>\n

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\"bad<\/p>\n

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You may not\u00a0care much about the written portion of your profile, but women do.\u00a0 Over the years I’ve worked\u00a0on the accounts of thousands of women, and a\u00a0vast\u00a0majority have told me that they won’t even message a man who has a short profile or a profile that lacks substance.<\/p>\n

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This indicates that you aren’t taking the process seriously, might be lazy, or just aren’t that interesting.\u00a0 True or not, these are the judgements that will be made.\u00a0 As tedious as creating a great profile can be, always remember, this is a tremendous opportunity to market yourself, build attraction, and separate yourself from the competition.\u00a0 If you\u00a0prefer professional help, you could always hire one of our pros here<\/a>\u00a0or click here for online dating profile templates<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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5.\u00a0 Your photos tell the wrong story<\/h3>\n

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The\u00a0best online dating photo<\/a>\u00a0galleries\u00a0paint a visual story of what it would be like to date you.\u00a0 You should be revealing as many attractive qualities as you possibly can and paint a clear picture of what living your best life looks like.<\/p>\n

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If you tell the\u00a0visual story of a man who has no interests, family, friends, or sense of adventure, you will have a much harder time attracting women.\u00a0 Each picture is an opportunity to build attraction, so tell the right stories.<\/p>\n

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6.\u00a0 You Are\u00a0Making a Terrible First Impression<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"Portrait<\/p>\n

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You only get one shot at a first impression online.\u00a0 With so much competition, it has to be perfect.\u00a0\u00a0If a woman doesn’t feel some type of emotional high or spark within seconds of viewing you, she will move on to the next profile.<\/p>\n

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This starts with the email<\/a> and extends to the profile and photos.\u00a0 All must sync together in perfect harmony in order to generate an optimal first impression.\u00a0 Click here for online dating email templates<\/a> that get results.<\/p>\n

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7.\u00a0 You Sound Like You Were Built\u00a0By\u00a0An Online Dating\u00a0Generator<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"irobot\"<\/p>\n

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Do you like going hiking and\u00a0 traveling?\u00a0 Do you enjoy being outdoors, but also enjoy staying in to watch a movie?\u00a0 That’s great.\u00a0 The only problem is, every other man online does too.\u00a0 Or at least they all pretend to like hiking.\u00a0 But I digress…<\/p>\n

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Don’t spit out information\u00a0as if you ran your interests through some random generator of things men are supposed to say online.\u00a0 If you talk about travel, get creative with how you broach the subject or throw in an a small anecdote\u00a0to emphasize the point.\u00a0 Show some creativity, let your unique voice shine through, and don’t be afraid to be a little different.<\/p>\n

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8.\u00a0 You\u00a0Come Across As\u00a0Inauthentic<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"mystery\"<\/p>\n

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When I first started online dating I tried being the\u00a0bad\u00a0boy, the ladies man, the too cool for school guy, etc.\u00a0 It was lame and women sniffed it right out.\u00a0 Online dating is about highlighting\u00a0YOUR best self in ways that will attract women.\u00a0\u00a0Don’t try to dress like someone you aren’t or be someone you’re not.<\/p>\n

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If I told you to copy everything I did to attract women right down to the smallest detail,\u00a0 it would be the wrong approach.\u00a0 The methods behind my success work, but copying my every move I make wouldn’t because it wouldn’t be authentic.<\/p>\n

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Just remember, being authentic doesn’t mean to embrace the slob within you or to write off all your flaws as your authentic self.\u00a0 \u00a0It’s about highlighting the\u00a0BEST version of yourself.\u00a0 Figure out what your strongest assets are and work from there.<\/p>\n

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9.\u00a0 Your emails feel like homework<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Your emails should make a woman excited, not feel like an obligation.\u00a0 Emails that are too long, ask too many questions, or require deep thinking are only going to create a burden in a woman’s life.\u00a0 Be economical with your words and try to pack as much punch as you can into\u00a0each sentence you write.\u00a0 For 21 tips on how to message women online<\/a>, click here<\/a><\/p>\n

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10.\u00a0 Your\u00a0presentation is off<\/h3>\n

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\"Bored<\/p>\n

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The content of how you sell yourself\u00a0might be incredible, but it’s all about the presentation.\u00a0 Your profile and emails need to have the proper structure and should be\u00a0visually appealing to the\u00a0eyes.\u00a0 Writing long paragraphs with a poorly organized structure will hinder women from reading\u00a0what you write.<\/p>\n

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11.\u00a0 You look like a loner<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"You<\/p>\n

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Your pictures should be filled with energy, friends, family, activities, etc.\u00a0 Sure, it’s okay to have a few photos alone.\u00a0\u00a0It’s even okay if all your photos are alone (although I wouldn’t recommend this) as long as you have vibrant backgrounds.<\/p>\n

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However, if your pictures are alone, you don’t want to take them with barren backgrounds or in scenarios that have an isolated feel to them.\u00a0 A picture is worth a thousand words and isolated looking photos will create the impression that you are a loner.<\/p>\n

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12.\u00a0 You Are Sending Out Negative Energy<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Often times this isn’t intentional.\u00a0 \u00a0The most common offenders involve listing qualities that you don’t want in a partner, stating that you aren’t sure if online dating is for you, or discussing previous mistakes you’ve made in choosing a partner.<\/p>\n

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Focus on the positive.\u00a0 Get excited about online dating.\u00a0 Instead of stating qualities you don’t want, state the qualities you do want.\u00a0 Always remember, positive energy attracts positive attention.<\/p>\n

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13.\u00a0 You aren’t enthusiastic enough<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Enthusiasm is contagious.\u00a0 If you are excited about life, the people in your orbit will be excited to share that life with you.\u00a0 Passive online daters that have a nonchalant attitude about online dating will be passed over in favor of a more enthusiastic and optimistic men.<\/p>\n

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14.\u00a0 Your grammar is turning women off<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Poor grammar and spelling communicates to women that you are either lazy or lack intelligence.\u00a0 While this may not be true, it’s enough to send\u00a0women clicking to the next email.\u00a0 Slacking on the little things isn’t only about grammar.\u00a0 It communicates that\u00a0you may be a slacker in\u00a0all aspects of your life, including relationships.<\/p>\n

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15.\u00a0 You are telling, not showing<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"woman<\/p>\n

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Don’t say you’re funny.\u00a0 Show your are funny with a funny opening email and a hilarious profile.\u00a0 Don’t say you are confident, write with extreme confidence.<\/p>\n

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Every man alive knows how to throw a bunch of adjectives that sound great into a profile.\u00a0 This means nothing to a woman and comes across as boring.\u00a0 She has no reason to believe it’s true.<\/p>\n

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Showing that you\u00a0have these qualities (instead of telling) will give her no choice but to see you are the great guy you claim to be.\u00a0 If I’m actually funny and make a woman laugh, a woman isn’t going to wonder if I’m really funny!<\/p>\n

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Now that you know why women aren’t responding on dating sites, it’s time to take action!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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For plenty more free online dating advice<\/a> to get you on the path to success, click here now<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0You can also follow me on\u00a0twitter<\/a>,\u00a0facebook<\/a>, or\u00a0youtube<\/a>\u00a0for exclusive free content and advice.<\/p>\n

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