{"id":6792,"date":"2026-08-18T13:54:23","date_gmt":"2026-08-18T13:54:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/joshuapompey.com\/men\/?page_id=6792"},"modified":"2026-08-18T13:54:25","modified_gmt":"2026-08-18T13:54:25","slug":"q-a-with-joshua-pompey-i-reached-out-to-several-women-on-a-dating-app-and-didnt-hear-back","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/joshuapompey.com\/men\/q-a-with-joshua-pompey-i-reached-out-to-several-women-on-a-dating-app-and-didnt-hear-back\/","title":{"rendered":"Q &#038; A with Joshua Pompey: I Reached Out to Several Women on a Dating App and Didn\u2019t Hear Back"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Q &amp; A with Joshua Pompey: Questions from Actual Clients<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:50px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"602\" height=\"401\" src=\"https:\/\/joshuapompey.com\/men\/wp-content\/uploads\/0_1Oik79BShcTY97A9.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-6793\" srcset=\"https:\/\/joshuapompey.com\/men\/wp-content\/uploads\/0_1Oik79BShcTY97A9.webp 602w, https:\/\/joshuapompey.com\/men\/wp-content\/uploads\/0_1Oik79BShcTY97A9-300x200.webp 300w, https:\/\/joshuapompey.com\/men\/wp-content\/uploads\/0_1Oik79BShcTY97A9-600x400.webp 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 602px) 100vw, 602px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:50px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Client:<\/strong> I reached out to several women on a dating app and didn\u2019t hear back. Am I doing something wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Joshua:<\/strong> Not necessarily. One thing you have to understand about dating apps is that there is tremendous variance. The truth is, even the highest quality men only response rates in the 30 to 40% range if they are doing everything perfect.  It\u2019s simply the nature of dating apps, and most of the time (not always) it isn\u2019t a reflection of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes a lack of a response comes down to factors that are completely out of your control. Of course, there will be situations where someone just isn\u2019t interested, but it can just as easily be timing, a busy schedule, the fact that she is already talking to someone else and seeing where that goes, or simply not checking the app on a consistent basis. You\u2019re often dealing with incomplete information, so it\u2019s important not to jump to negative conclusions too quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Another important point is that results on dating apps should never be judged based on just one or two interactions. <strong>If you only reached out to several people, that\u2019s still a relatively small sample size to accurately evaluate what\u2019s working and what isn\u2019t<\/strong>. This is where many people go wrong.  They assume there\u2019s an issue with their approach when, in reality, they just haven\u2019t given it enough volume.  In order to have accurate data you need to send at least 100 messages out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The key is to stay consistent and keep your outreach strong. Focus on sending quality messages, maintaining a positive tone, and continuing to engage new matches. Over time, patterns will start to emerge, and you\u2019ll have a much clearer picture of your overall performance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>As a general rule of thumb, <strong>I recommend stepping back and analyzing your results only after you\u2019ve sent at least 20\u201330 messages.<\/strong> That gives you enough data to make informed adjustments, rather than reacting emotionally to a small number of outcomes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:50px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Need A Little Professional Help From Our Experts?  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Am I doing something wrong? Joshua: Not necessarily. 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