By Joshua Pompey<\/p>\n
Alright men. \u00a0Listen up. \u00a0I work with female online daters every day of my life and I am here with some important news from the inside. \u00a0 Women have been telling me over and over for years how they\u00a0wish all you men out there were more aggressive online.<\/p>\n
Now before you go un-zipping your pants and praising the online dating<\/a> gods above, they don’t mean that in a sexual way. \u00a0Sorry if I tricked you. \u00a0Put your pants back on. Back with me? \u00a0Come on man. \u00a0Seriously. \u00a0\u00a0Put them back on! \u00a0 Back for real this time? \u00a0Okay, cool…<\/p>\n But in all seriousness, one of the most common complaints that female online daters express to me is that they wish men online would ask them for their phone numbers quicker without emailing them for what feels like an eternity.<\/p>\n A lot of men out there have a tendency to email over… and over… and over… and… \u00a0well… you get the idea. \u00a0 Back to my point… These women wish you would ask them out quicker. \u00a0Less work for you. \u00a0Less frustration for them. \u00a0It’s a win-win right?<\/p>\n But\u00a0here’s the thing. \u00a0You don’t want to\u00a0ask for a phone number too<\/em> quickly. \u00a0A woman won’t give out her number to a stranger until she feels comfortable with you first.<\/p>\n If you\u00a0push for a number too\u00a0soon, in the words of Vince Vaughn’s skinny Swingers days, “you may accidentally scare a beautiful baby off who was ready to party.” \u00a0God I miss skinny Vince Vaughn.<\/p>\n On the other hand, you also don’t want to wait too<\/em> long<\/em> to push for the number.\u00a0\u00a0This can be extremely frustrating for a woman,\u00a0and even worse, may cause her to flake.<\/p>\n So how do you know when the time is right? \u00a0You just have to pay attention to the signs. \u00a0Long\u00a0emails, exclamations, personal questions, and\u00a0flirtatious comments are all online indicators of interest<\/a> that she wants you to ask her out. \u00a0The higher the combination, the higher the interest.<\/p>\n In some cases, a woman might just be bad\u00a0at showing interest. \u00a0There are a lot of women out there who fall into this category. \u00a0But even if she is demonstrating very little interest, if she as been talking to you for a few days, it means she’s into you, so\u00a0push for the number.<\/p>\n As a rule of thumb, 4 to 6 email exchanges is usually the sweet spot for asking for a number. \u00a0But in today’s attention deficit world, I’d lean more towards 4.<\/p>\n Looking for some emailing advice to boost your inbox?<\/strong><\/p>\n Learn how to email like a pro the way I’ve taught men all over the world to do with tremendous success by following\u00a0the\u00a0rules of the online dating opener<\/a>\u00a0in this free article<\/a><\/p>\n Or read plenty of free online dating advice<\/a> on all topics here<\/a>
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