Reboot Your Frustrated Online Dating Life With These 3 Powerful Tips

Reboot Your Frustrated Online Dating Life With These 3 Powerful  Tips


By Joshua Pompey



As the New Year begins to unfold, the symbolic change of the calendar year is the perfect time to begin re-evaluating your approach towards online dating.  Especially if you are a frustrated online dater!  Last year may have not been your year, but perhaps all you need is a fresh mindset to truly achieve the success you are hoping for.


When it comes to online dating success, if there is one thing I am certain of it’s that the mental approach you take to online dating is just as important, if not more important than the physical actions you take towards finding success.  Today I’d like to share with you some online dating advice that will help get you into the type of mindset that is conducive to a happy ending.


Stop thinking about the obligation and start thinking about the opportunity


I know how challenging online dating can be with so many social, familial, and work obligations.  I’m sure for most of you online dating often feels more like a second job than anything else.


But as easy as it is to become frustrated with online dating and annoyed that you have to constantly log onto a dating site just to find a relationship, try shifting your mindset to focusing on the positive.  Think of logging on to a dating site after a full days work not as an obligation, but rather, as an opportunity to meet the person of your dreams.


Every day, no matter how busy you are, no matter how much your job sucked that day, or no matter how tired you are from social obligations, you get to end each day with the opportunity of finding everlasting happiness for yourself.  This is you time to prepare for your future happiness.


Each log on provides a new hope of meeting someone special.  This is the goal that you must never lose sight of.  By focusing on this goal at all times and keeping positive, you will stay motivated, have a more positive attitude in your emails and on dates, and will ultimately find what you are looking for much more effectively.



Start embracing challenges 


Do you want to know why I’ve had a thriving business that revolves around online dating for a decade?   It sure isn’t because online dating is easy.


Online dating is hard work!  And just like anything else worthwhile in life, if you want something worthwhile, you need to work for it.


Start looking at online dating as a challenge to conquer the same way you would look at conquering challenges at the gym or obtaining a job promotion.  Except in this case, when you achieve your goal you don’t just temporarily lose weight or have a better position.


Your reward of a long term relationship lasts forever (hopefully!).  Where else in life do you get such a massive payoff for taking on a tough challenge?


Always look forward


Down on your luck because you’ve been on a few bad dates?  Guess what, so have a million other people that found the love of their life online.
Try to remember that your problems online, although annoying and frustrating, are certainly not unique.  I help people with online dating for a living and I can tell you that I went on at least 50 dates from hell before finding my soul mate online and on retrospect, every single one of them was not only worth it, but I’d do it ten times over again if I had to in order to meet my wife.
Regardless of what happens to you online, never look towards the past.  Keep your eye on the prize and focus on the future.

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