Over the past decade I have supervised the creation of over 20,000 profiles. In addition, I have probably read more online dating profiles than any one man should read in a lifetime! Sounds exhausting, right? Luckily for you, all this work has allowed me to acquire a lifetime’s worth of knowledge that I am more than happy to share!
So let’s start today’s lesson by transforming some terribly written profiles into the type of profiles that quality men will be excited to respond to. And if you are looking for more actionable advice after reading this article, I put together a free page filled with some of my best advice on photos, emailing, texting, and more. You can find all this information here
Lesson #1: How to transform the “negative energy profile.”
Let’s start by taking a look at the negative energy profile:
“I’m not here to meet anyone who plays games. And if you are close-minded, sit on the couch all day, or don’t have a job, please don’t message me. I’m not interested.”
While I think we could all agree with desires listed above, the manner in which they are presented create the image of a woman who is negative, possibly high maintenance, and potentially has baggage from previous relationships. Overall, this woman feels like a complete downer.
I know receiving emails from low quality men is frustrating, but listing what you don’t want in men won’t deter them. These low quality men either don’t care or aren’t reading your profile anyway. Ironically, negative lists will only serve to scare away the high quality men that you are trying to attract.
Let’s revise the example above into profile writing that will attract high quality men:
“If you are adventurous, active, and driven, you will definitely have my attention. If you can also make me laugh and love a spontaneous road trip every now and then, even better. It’s a little known fact that I’m an all time great at creating unforgettable road trip memories! You provide the snacks, I’ll take care of the rest! Fair enough, right? 🙂
The revised profile still expresses the same desires (a man who is driven, active, open), but this time, creates the image of a woman who is upbeat, playful, excited, and positive-minded. The personality of this woman shines through, presenting a woman that is infinitely more likable and attractive to a man. Always remember, positive energy attracts positive attention.
Lesson #2: How to transform the “boring and cliche profile.”
An example of the boring and cliche profile:
“My name is Nancy, I currently work as a Sales Director, and I really love what I do.”
If you want to attract a man who is in high demand, you can’t afford to blend in with the competition. While there is nothing inherently bad about the statement above, there is nothing great about it either. The problem is, its ridiculously boring and will instantly make a man’s eyes glaze over. Instead, Nancy should focus on using her occupation to showcase her best personality traits.
Let’s revise the example above:
“For “work” you could find me chasing down all types of new goals as a Sales Director. Not only is my job is exciting at times, but I get to have a whole lot of fun meeting and interacting with all types of incredible people every day! What more could I ask for?
In the new and improved profile example, Nancy uses her occupation to highlight some of her best characteristics. She is social, loves to have fun, challenges herself professionally, and comes across as a positive-minded person who loves life. These are very attractive qualities.
When you write an online dating profile, every word and statement should have a specific purpose. If it doesn’t, it either shouldn’t be there, or needs to be re-written.
Lesson #3: How to transform the “needy and desperate sounding profile”
Let’s now look at an example of the needy and desperate sounding profile:
“I would love nothing more than to finally get off this site. I really want to meet a man who is smart, funny, and has a good job. If you are out there, I hope to hear from you.”
The first statement implies that the writer hasn’t had any luck with online dating. This creates the vibe of a woman who is a bit desperate to meet someone (even if that isn’t accurate). Using the words “really want” and “hope to hear from you” create the image of a woman who is needy (really want) and creates the image of a woman who is just sitting around waiting for a man to rescue her (hope to hear from you). This may not be true at all, but perception is everything.
The better way to write your profile:
“The perfect man for me would love to learn new things, isn’t afraid to let loose and laugh a little, and enjoys achieving new goals as much as I do! Next goal? Adding someone incredible to what is otherwise an extremely fulfilling life!
In the new and improved example, a few subtle changes transform the writer from sounding a bit needy and desperate for a relationship, to a woman who is confident, in control, happy, and overall a much more attractive woman.
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