What to Say When Planning a Date With a Woman
6 Words You Should Never Say Before A First Date (Most Men Do It!)
In this article you will learn:
- The 6 words that will lower attraction prior to a first date.
- How to use her dating profile as a cheat sheet to come up with a date she’ll actually enjoy.
- What to say when planning a date with a woman so you can appear confident and decisive.
You meet a woman on a dating app.
It’s a match!
The two of you hit it off, and things progress to a phone number.
Then the moment comes: it’s time to plan a date.
And this is exactly where most men go wrong.
There are six words you should never say to a woman prior to a first date.
And unfortunately, almost every man utters the six words I’m about to reveal.
“What do you want to do?”
Now you might be wondering to yourself… seriously, Joshua? That’s your advice? That’s terrible advice! What’s the big deal?
Well, hear me out…
On the surface, these words seem completely innocent.
You’re just being considerate, right? Trying to make sure that she has a say in the plans or that you do something she actually wants to do.
But here’s the problem…
The issue isn’t necessarily the six words themselves.
It’s what those six words are signaling.
Because if you’re the one who asked her out and then immediately ask her to figure out what you’re going to do, it’s going to make you look indecisive and show a lack of leadership.
Yes, you were trying to be considerate.
But the result will be frustration.
And if you follow up “What do you want to do?” with the statement…
“I’m good with whatever.”
Congratulations.
You’ve officially made her your event planner.
But here’s the thing…
I’m not saying you have to be some domineering man who tells a woman what to wear and what to eat for dinner.
There’s a much better way to handle this.
Here’s what you should do instead…
How to Plan a Date With a Woman
When you’re planning a date with a woman, your goal should be to make a confident suggestion while still giving her the opportunity to have input.
Instead of asking:
“What do you want to do?”
Give her something to respond to.
For example:
“There’s this great taco joint that just opened downtown that I’ve been wanting to check out. How about we meet there? What’s your schedule looking like this week?”
See the difference?
You came up with an actual idea. You made a suggestion.
But you also gave her an opportunity to say:
“Actually, I’m not really feeling tacos tonight.”
And that’s completely fine.
You can adjust.
The point is that you’re capable of making a decision and confident enough to make one.
And that’s a hell of a lot better than:
“I’m good with whatever.”
Use Her Dating Profile as Your Cheat Sheet
Since you’re on a dating app, you literally have a cheat sheet.
Her dating profile.
It tells you exactly what she’s into.
She might mention that she loves tacos.
Maybe she’s obsessed with espresso martinis.
Maybe she loves live music.
That’s information you can use.
And somehow, after reading all of that, some guys are still sitting there thinking:
“So… what do you want to do?”
Come on, bro.
She mentioned an obsession with tacos.
I’m not a rocket scientist…
But maybe…
JUST MAYBE…
she’d enjoy checking out that new taco spot everyone’s been talking about.
You don’t need to pull a date idea out of thin air.
She’s already given you the information.
Your job is to actually use it.
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The Simple Formula for Planning a Date
Suggestion + Specific Plan + Easy Choice
That’s it.
Give her a suggestion.
Tell her what you’re thinking and when.
Then give her an easy way to respond.
You’re leading without controlling.
You’re being decisive without being rigid.
And you’re making the entire process easier for both of you.
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