25 Ways I Created The Best Online Dating Profile Ever Made
25 Ways I Created The Best Online Dating Profile Ever Made
By Joshua Pompey
Okay, maybe I’m a little bit biased. But I sure like to think that I was in possession of the best online dating profile ever made (prior to meeting my wife online!).
And while my profile may not have actually been the BEST in the world, it sure got me dates with more beautiful women than I ever dreamed possible.
How incredible can your results be? Just take a look at one of my weekly reports on Match.com back in the day.
If 79 women showing interest in a single week sounds appealing (not including the messages that were sent my way!), then you have come to the right place. This is what can happen when you take the time to build an exceptional profile.
So let’s get into the components of what made my profile one of the best ever, so that you could replicate the process on your own (Or… cue shameless plug… you can hire our profile writers and save a ton of time. Men, click here. Women, click here).
1. I Always Kept Women Laughing
Laughter signals to a woman that you are fun, intelligent, and will be an entertaining first date.
When women read this portion of the profile, they not only laughed, but I’d often receive a dozen messages a week from women making jokes about “my poor grandmother.”When it comes to qualities women look for in a man, laughter is always near the top of the list. Writing a hilarious profile communicates that you are fun, socially intelligent, and will make a great first date.
2. My profile signals I’m having fun with the process
Most profiles are incredibly tedious and boring. The best online dating profiles remove that boredom and have fun with the process.
A well-written profile should never make the other person feel like they are reading a resume. We want to entertain our audience, not bore them to tears.
When I set out to write the best profile I could, my mission was to make it unmistakably me—full of personality, authenticity, and a sense that I was having fun with the process.
Look no further than the example below to see that I’m not taking the process too seriously. Here, I’m having fun, showing off my playful side, entertaining my audience, and naturally weaving in some of my interests along the way so that I can get the most mileage out of each word.
This is leaps and bounds more entertaining than most of the boring profiles out there, and thus, gives me a huge advantage.
P.S. I don’t really wear heels!
3. I balance my humor with plenty of drive & ambition.
Take a guy like Elon Musk. He may be one of the richest men in the world, but suppose he just had ordinary money. In spite of the fact that he’s not a very attractive man, he’d still attract a lot of women.
Why? Because whether you love him or hate him, this is a man who has always signaled tremendous ambition and a goal-oriented mindset.
Having ambition is a quality that women are instinctively attracted to. This can be attributed to evolutionary programming that goes back centuries.
However, the key to properly showcasing ambition in your profile is to do so in a subtle manner. Nobody likes a braggart.
There are multiple ways you could approach this. It could be something simple like the sample below from my profile:
Or it could be something that goes into a bit more depth that really highlights the passion you have for your job. This is the profile of one of my extremely successful clients:
It is important to note that drive can come in many forms. It doesn’t have to be financial. It could be your passion for art, volunteering, raising a family, etc. But you do have to show you have goals and purpose in your life.
4. The best online dating profiles are easy on the eyes.
See that woman above? She has absolutely nothing to do with this article. But she sure is easy on the eyes huh?
I have to keep your attention somehow right? And you’re welcome for that.
Now where were we? Profile writing needs to be easy on the eyes…
See how this post is written? None of the paragraphs are more than 3 lines long. This is because if my paragraphs were longer, you would probably stop reading.
Just look at the profile below as an example. Would you stop and read this? Probably not. It’s too visually intimidating and feels like homework.
5. The words in my profile are carefully chosen to reveal extreme confidence
Confidence is arguably the most important quality a man can have. No beautiful woman is going to think you are worthy of her if you don’t even feel like you are worthy of yourself.
The words you choose in your profile, along with how you phrase them are going to reveal just how much confidence you have. Take a look at the ending to my former profile in the screenshot below.
The wording is simple, to the point, and communicates confidence. I am subtly communicating that I have an active social life by stating that I get busy and am not glued to my phone.
You’d be amazed at how many women would throw me their number in the first message after reading my profile.
Think about how different my confidence would come across if I wrote:
“I’m looking to find a nice girl to connect with. If you have any interest in what I wrote, I’m a really nice guy just looking for a best friend and would love the chance to meet you.”
This shows zero confidence, is extremely beta, and would cripple my results.
Some other common words and phrases you will want to avoid are:
- If you are interested…
- I’m looking for…
- I want…
- Any phrase expressing you are a nice guy
Confidence is also reflected in how comfortable you appear to be with yourself in your writing.
Go back to some of the screenshots I posted earlier in this post and you’ll notice that there is an ease to everything I write.
6. My profile is designed to give off positive energy only
Believe it or not, this text is replicated from a real profile. The profile above is the perfect example of a man who oozes insecurity and negative energy. This profile screams, “I have baggage and women don’t like me!”
When you write your profile, never focus on anything negative. Only focus on sending out positive vibes.
For example, I would never write, “If you smoke, don’t have a job, and are all about material things, don’t message me.”
This is true, but I would never write it. Instead I would just express what I want in a positive way.
A better way to write this would be, “I get along best with women who are active, have goals, and get excited about creating new experiences.”
Always write in a manner that demonstrates what you do want as opposed to what you don’t want. Positive writing attracts positive attention. Negative writing attracts NO attention.
7. I don’t waste space on what I’m looking for
Attentions spans are short, so every word needs to have a purpose.
Listing what you want in a partner is a waste of space. A great profile implicitly shows what you want in a partner by highlighting yourself properly. There’s no need to directly state it.
For example, if I write that I love to ski, rock climb, spend time with family, and travel, women will understand that I want someone who is also active, family-oriented, and adventurous. I am killing two birds with one stone without wasting any words.
8. I give every type of woman a reason to date me
Having commonalities with someone is an easy way to spark interest.
The more diversity you show, the more likely women will find things in your profile to connect with, and the more likely they will see the potential in dating you.
Try to reveal as many personality traits, hobbies, passions, goals, and ambitions as you can throughout the duration of your profile.
9. I infuse questions into my profile in a calculated manner
Infusing questions into my profile serves 2 purposes.
First off, it makes the profile feel more personal.
Can I ask you a question before I continue this article?
Okay, I don’t actually have a question. But for a split second did I was talking exclusively to you?
This is the effect that asking direct questions can have. It psychologically creates a one on one experience, even if thousands of other online daters are reading the same question.
Asking questions in your profile will have the same impact. They will make women feel as if you are directly speaking to them, and thus, will sub-consciously create a stronger connection.
In addition, asking questions can drastically increase the amount of women who start up conversations with you.
I like to refer to this as profile bait. Let’s look at the example below, where I end with a question that encourages women to share a favorite restaurant or bar they’ve been to.
This baits the reader into suggesting a great food or drink spot, as well as making it easy for her to start a conversation. The easier we make it for someone to initiate, the more likely they will.
10. I didn’t completely reinvent the wheel
Yea that’s right. That super douchey looking guy with the painted nails and goggles on his head was actually someone who I was able to extract tremendous knowledge from once upon a time.
His name was “Mystery” (cue laughter), and he was a famous pick up artist back in the day when women apparently fell hard for men who wore goggles on their heads.
But as silly, cheesy, and disingenuous as some of the ideas behind “pick up artists” were, some of their teachings were insanely effective. They understood how the science of attraction works.
Through their teachings I learned that there are a whole variety of internal characteristics and personality traits that women are instinctively attracted to, that have absolutely nothing to do with a man’s physical appearance.
I then took this knowledge, figured out how to improve it, and came up with endless ways to infuse these triggers of attraction into the online dating world.
I didn’t necessarily reinvent the wheel. I found valuable information, repurposed it, drastically improved it, and used it to my advantage.
And those guys didn’t reinvent the wheel either. Their teachings were derived from behavioral science and psychology. Attraction is a science.
Once you understand how to apply that science to your online dating profile, your results will go through the roof.11. My writing shows that women are the ones who need to chase me
Let’s look at the following profile example:
“If you are interested and want to talk, shoot me a message.”
This sentence communicates that I am the one chasing and signals that the woman has all the power. I might as well be saying, “let me know if you think I’m good enough.”
The best online dating profiles use words to signal that women are the ones that have to chase us.
Let’s go back to an actual example from my profile in order to exemplify this:
“I do get kind of busy sometimes, but for those of you that my profile connects with, don’t be shy. Shoot me a message or drop me your number and let’s see where things go.”
This tweak in language creates the appearance that I am in complete control of the situation. I’m not asking women to message me “if” they are interested.
I’m confidently telling women that view my profile to go ahead and send me a message, or even better, to just give me their phone number, which resulted in endless women sending me their number in the first message due to all the attraction I had built up in my profile.
12. My profile is designed to be read 2 completely different ways.
Remember these illusions from your childhood?
What do you see when you look at the picture above, a beautiful woman, or a witch?
This applies to sites and apps that allow a longer profile summary, but when I wrote my online dating profile for sites such as Match.com, I created them in a similar fashion. I allowed the reader to read my profile in 2 completely different ways.
Why? Because the 1st time women read your online dating profile, they usually just skim it for information.
Once you officially have their interest, that’s when they go back and give it a much deeper read.
Therefore, a profile should be structured in a manner that allows it to be skimmed for information upon first reading, and read like a well-written short story upon second reading.
How do you do this?
First divide your profile writing into several mini paragraphs of 2 to 3 sentences each.
Then give each paragraph a specific focus.
A sample way to structure your profile:
Paragraph 1: A funny intro
Paragraph 2: About your career
Paragraph 3: Your outdoors hobbies
Paragraph 4: Your passion for athletics
Paragraph 5: Your indoor hobbies
Paragraph 6: End with a humorous cliffhanger
There are endless ways you can structure your paragraphs. Above is just one possibility.
Once you have a structure, think of each paragraph as a 2-3 sentence story and make them as entertaining as possible. You can incorporate all the tips from this article to assist you.
As overwhelming as writing an online dating profile might seem on the surface, if you just tackle the process 2-3 sentences at a time with each category having a different focus, it really isn’t that bad.
This will allow for an easy skim, as well as a highly entertaining read in which each paragraph flows from one to the next.
13. My writing reflects intelligence in various ways
My profile writing reflects intelligence in 2 ways.
First, I show wit throughout the profile. This is a silent indicator of intelligence.
Secondly, I write with style and avoid any grammatical errors. This is important, as women do notice these things.
Poor grammar will cause women to judge our intelligence and how much effort you put into things in life.
If your grammar is bad, you can always hire a professional profile writer to write your profile, or at the minimum, have one edit it.
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Finally, I communicate that I enjoy reading, writing, and display the University I graduated from.
If you don’t enjoy these things and didn’t go to college, don’t worry. There are countless people in that boat who are still highly intelligent.
But if you are in this situation, make up for it by displaying interests that show you do enjoy learning and educating yourself on some level.
The Pictures
14. I tell an extremely powerful visual story
Suppose this was the only picture I posted of myself. It’s possible I’d get a few hits. But my results would be minimal.
This is because I would only have a photo that puts all the emphasis on my physical appearance. I am revealing absolutely nothing about my hobbies, interests, passions, etc. Nor am I tapping into any of the internal characteristics that spark attraction.
In fact, after performing an experiment where I only used this picture, my results went down over 3,000%.
The truth is, unless you are in the top 1% of men in the looks department, you need to tell a strong visual story. And that’s exactly what my profile does.
When a woman comes across my profile, she doesn’t just see a man smiling at the camera in a few boring locations.
She sees the well-rounded visual presentation of a man who is living an incredible, well-rounded life.
As we continue this article, remember this all-important fact: The visual story you tell is a massive contributor to your success.
Now let’s get more specific with what this visual story includes and doesn’t include.
15. My pictures focus on my strengths.
When I first started online dating, I hated how I looked in photos. I was hypercritical of my own appearance.
But the truth is, my appearance needed a lot of work. It took me a long time to figure out a haircut that was ideal for myself, along with a style that made me feel comfortable, relaxed, and attractive.
I also started hitting the gym hard because I knew that this would not only improve my physical appearance, but would signal I am a motivated and driven person. This gave me even more confidence for my photos.
Always focus on your strengths and make a conscious effort to look your best self. With the right haircut, clothes, grooming, and dedication to health, any man can become attractive enough to ignite interest on a dating app, pending the rest of the profile is set up efficiently.
16. I took hundreds of pictures to get 6 great photos
Yep, that’s the same person.
In the first photo, my veins are popping out, the lighting is terrible, and no woman in her right mind would talk to that creep holding the snake. This photo is the complete opposite of everything you want in a photo.
In contrast, the 2nd photo depicts me in a manner that is confident and attractive, with excellent lightening and a flattering angle.
With that said, it took A LOT of photos before I was able to get this one photo that I truly liked. And that’s the best part about dating apps. It may take hundreds of photos, but all you need is a handful of great ones and you are set forever.
Whether this takes you an hour, a day, a week, or several weeks, you need to keep putting in the work for as long as it takes until you get the type of photos you need to have true success with. Good enough just won’t cut it.
17. My main profile picture pops off the page in a search
It’s important to have a main photo that immediately draws a woman’s eye to it.
Women will see countless profiles when they perform searches. The main photo must be your most attractive photo.
This requires you to:
- Look stylish (a stylish suit goes a long way)
- Have a confident smile
- Excellent lighting with vibrant backgrounds
- Flattering angles
18. I understood that creating a photo gallery is not a 1 day task
This is the wrong approach.
Creating a truly effective photo gallery requires a lot of work.
First you need a plan. This article should help you with that process.
Then you need a strategy for obtaining your photos.
Do you already have some solid photos on social media? Do you need to visit various locations? Do you have to enlist the help of friends or a photographer?
Once you figure that out, it’s all about execution.
But trust me when I say, over the years the men who really took their time, spending multiple weeks developing visual stories, were often the men who wound up having the best success once they started.
19. I utilized captions to my advantage
During my younger days, one of my most successful photos was the photo below.
Was this my most attractive photo? Absolutely not.
Was it my most stylish photo? Absolutely not.
Did I receive more comments on this photo than almost any photo I ever posted? Absolutely yes.
For starters, it generates a laugh. Second, it taps into many qualities women are instinctively attracted to. Between the dog, the baby, my grandmother, and a sister, I am also signaling that I am a family-oriented guy with protector qualities and strong values.
20. I demonstrate that I have meaningful relationships in my life.
Let’s go back to the picture above. In addition to making women laugh, I am revealing that I have a strong bond with animals, my grandmother, my sister, and my nephew.
It’s a home run picture for making women laugh, for prompting women to initiate conversations, and for showing I have meaningful relationships in life.
Later on in my photo gallery I added another 2 pictures hanging out with friends, and another with family, further cementing the relationships in my life and my active social life.
21. I create a sense of adventure
The adventure picture communicates to women that I am anything but boring. Life with me will be a life that is filled with new adventures and experiences.
That’s me in Iceland a few years back standing near a gargantuan waterfall. You may not see my face in this picture, but that doesn’t matter at all. Anyone viewing this can instantly see that I have an adventurous side.
Maybe you haven’t been to an adventurous location and money is a bit too tight to travel. Not a problem. Just check out the picture below.
This picture was taken at a national park — completely free. And here’s a little secret… I’m not actually doing anything scary.
I made the camera angle of that picture look really intense. In actuality, there was a very safe place to step down right next to me.
You may have to get creative if you don’t already have any adventurous pictures, but take the time to acquire one or more. This helps a lot.
22. I show that I have an active social life
The worst thing I could do with my photo gallery is post several pictures standing alone. This creates feelings of isolation and loneliness.
Whether it’s playing sports with friends or hanging out at happy hour, it’s important to signal that you have an active social life.
These photos communicate that you enjoy being around people, and people enjoy being around you. This is extremely attractive to other women.
In addition, it eases the anxiety of going on a date with you. By signaling other people like you, women will be able to verify that you aren’t an awkward weirdo with no friends.
23. I signal that I’m open to learning new things.
That’s me above at a pizza making class with a couple of friends. If you saw the final result, you’d probably have a good laugh.
But it’s not about the pizza. It’s about trying new things.
This picture shows that I am open to trying new things and unique experiences.
Nobody is going to look at that and say, wow what a chef! But they might just think, “Oh cool, he’s not just one-dimensional. We could try a lot of different activities together.”
24. My photos encourage questions & create intrigue
That picture above was taken in Texas in the middle of nowhere. There was literally not a car in sight.
Notice all the weird stuff going on in that picture. It’s almost like a piece of art the more you look at it. When women see this picture, it raises their curiosity and prompts them to ask questions.
This is the same thing as the profile bait that we discussed earlier in the article, only this time, I am using the photos to bait women into a message.
If you can find or create a picture that raises curiosity and ignites interest, it will help a lot.
25. I create their fantasy life
At the end of the day, when all is said and done my profile creates a fantasy of what an ideal partner would look like.
And that’s what it’s all about. Most women want to be with someone who is fun, smart, interesting, open-minded, and ready to explore the world.
When they come across my profile, they get that fantasy and more. Which is why my profile is right up there with the best online dating profiles in the world!
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