10 Reasons Dating Apps Are A Waste Of Time – And It’s All Your Fault!

By Joshua Pompey

Let’s be real—dating apps are a waste of time. Not because they don’t work, but because most of you have no clue how to work them successfully. If you keep swiping with no results, you just might be the problem. Correction: You ARE the problem.

So have a seat, because while I am normally known for being over the top nice with my dating advice, today’s it’s time to break out some hard truths. Let’s go over 10 reasons dating apps are a waste of time for you — and yes, it’s all on you unless you fix the issues outlined below.

1. You Aren’t Putting in the Effort

Dating apps aren’t magic wands that summon your soulmate while you binge-watch 90 Day Fiancé or play video games with a half-eaten pizza on your chest while sipping on Instagram.

They’re a full-time job, and you’re treating them like a hobby that you don’t even have to get your lazy ass off the couch for.

If you’re not spending at least an hour a day on these apps perfecting your skills and performing highly targeted searches, then stop whining about how “no one good is on here” or that dating apps are a waste of time. Love isn’t going to fall into your lap any more than a six-figure salary will without a whole lot of effort.

2. You Need to Work On Your Health

You want a partner who’s in shape, but you’re not willing to put in the work yourself?

That’s like showing up to a job interview in sweatpants and expecting to be CEO.

The competition is fierce. If you’re not hitting the gym, eating right, or at least pretending to take care of yourself, don’t expect to land top-tier matches. Why should they stoop down to your level as opposed to you working your way to their level?

You don’t have to be a fitness model, but if you really want to reach the highest quality matches, get your ass off the couch, throw the Twinkie’s out, and put in the effort.

3. You Are Terrible at Taking Photos

Your photos suck. Yeah, I said it. That blurry, greasy selfie in your car? Trash.

That group photo where no one knows which one you are? I got better things to do than pay attention.

The fish pic? Burn it.

Hire a photographer, learn your angles, and for the love of all things holy, stop using Snapchat filters that make you look like a fairy princess unicorn from the magical land of involuntary celibacy.

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4. Men – You Are Completely Overestimating Your Sexual Appeal

Listen, if you allude to being “amazing in bed” one more time, I will personally track you down, grab your phone, and stomp it to pieces. Then I’ll set fire to it, collect the ashes, and launch it into outer space funded by my own children’s college tuition money. Sorry kids.

You’re not impressing anyone when you allude to your size, sexual superiority, or openness to kink. You’re just scaring them. Nor are women swiping right because you flex your abs in a dirty bathroom mirror captioned, “Good vibes only.”

You’re just embarrassing yourself. STOP.

5. Women – You Are Making Men Question Your “Purity”

I get it—it’s 2025, and women can express their sexuality however they want. But let’s be brutally honest here: men still want to believe (however delusional it may be) that they’re the first guy who’s ever turned your head.

You don’t have to wear a nun’s habit in your profile pic, but maybe ease up on the over-the-top thirst traps if you want a serious relationship.

6. You Are Practically Illiterate

“I wanna meet some1 I can luv long time.” Are you serious? No wait. That’s actually kind of funny (for me to laugh at you). But other than that, what the hell are you doing?

If you can’t string together a coherent sentence, just stop. Grammar and spelling matter. You don’t have to sound like Shakespeare, but at least prove you passed middle school English. If words aren’t your thing, hire a professional to write your profile. It will be well worth the investment (men click here, women click here).

7. You Are Wasting Your Time On Dating Apps Because You Are Boring as F-ck

“Hey.” “What’s up?” “How’s your day?” Stop. Just stop. You sound like a sentient cardboard box. If your conversation skills are that dry, you’re better off writing resumes for a living. Ask interesting questions, tell a funny story, or at least pretend you have a personality.

8. Your Preferences Are Borderline Delusional

Guys, if you’re looking for a busty partner who watches football, loves to sniff books, cuddle with inanimate wooden objects, and someone who has a fetish for sock puppets, you may need to change your mindset and expand the filters a bit.

And ladies, let’s be honest—there isn’t an infinite supply of 6’4” millionaire CEO gym rats who only have eyes for you. Adjust your expectations or prepare for eternal singledom.

9. You’re Entirely Clueless About How to Build Attraction

Dating apps aren’t real life. What works at a bar won’t necessarily work in an algorithm-driven, swipe-based marketplace. The rules are different here.

If you don’t understand how to spark attraction digitally, you’re doomed. Stop treating this like an extension of real-world flirting and learn how to play the game. There are ways to easily attract men and women on apps—learn them.

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10. You Need Help. As in PROFESSIONAL HELP!

Before you start googling pyschiatrists, I mean with online dating (although I’m sure many would benefit from that as well?)

At this point, you’ve got two options: you can keep wasting time on dating apps, or you could get help from experts who know how to actually navigate this insane world. And that’s where we come in!

It’s Time To Stop Wasting Your Time On Dating Apps Once & For All. Who Am I & How Can I Help You?

My name is Joshua Pompey, and despite the tone of this article, I’m actually a really nice guy. Truth be told, I’d never actually speak to customers or clients this way – I was just having a little fun. With that said, the core messages of this article are rooted in truth. If you want to be successful at dating apps, you must learn to put yourself in the best position for success.

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