23 Sep My 10 Best Online Dating Email Tips After A Decade Of Success
It’s hard to believe that it has been nearly a decade since I started helping men to succeed with online dating. And I have to say, I couldn’t be happier with how things have turned out.
How many people truly get to help others to find happiness on a daily basis?
In celebration of nearly ten years of helping men to find success online, today I’d like to share my 10 best online dating email tips of the past decade. If you are having low response rates online, these should help to boost your results quite a bit.
1. Keep the first email reasonably short
The first message should never feel like homework. The goal is to make a quick impression, ignite interest, and create an email that is relatively easy to respond to.
If it takes a woman more than a minute to respond to your first email, it’s probably too long. For follow up emails, it should never take more than 2 minutes max.
2. End every email with a call to action
Every email you write should end with a question that makes it as easy as possible for the other person to write back. Never end an email without a question.
3. Your call to action should focus on your strongest commonality
Focusing on a commonality will increase your response rate. If you can find a commonality that is super unique to the two of you, even better.
For example, everyone loves live music. But having the same favorite niche indie rock band? That’s pretty unlikely and will have the other person much more excited to engage with you. The more unique, the better.
4. Focus on their biggest passion
Maybe you can’t find a really strong commonality. If that’s the case, focus on what the other person seems to be most passionate about.
Truth be told, most peoples favorite subject is themselves. Given the opportunity, people love to talk about what they are most interested in. Use this to your advantage.
5. Humor is always your best weapon
This is always one of the most important online dating email tips I can preach. While being funny isn’t the only way to receive a response, my data has shown that women are over 85 percent more likely to respond when you open with something playful or humorous.
This is the easiest way to stand out from the pack, get noticed, and communicate that a date with you will be a fun time.
6. Always be cognizant of the impression your words are creating
Words can be very powerful. Some words communicate strength and confidence, while others can communicate insecurity and loneliness. It’s very important to choose your words wisely.
Avoid phrases such as, “if you are interested,” or “I hope to hear from you” in your emails. Instead, end your email using confident and powerful language that communicates you have a full life.