5 Ways To Instantly Attract More Quality Men Online
By Joshua Pompey
Have you been feeling a cold chill run up your spine every time you log onto a dating site lately? Perhaps there is that inevitable feeling of hopelessness every time you check your inbox. If you’re like most female online daters these days, you have probably just about had it with all the less than desirable men approaching you online.
But don’t go throwing in the towel just yet. As much as it may seem like online dating is full of lost causes, the truth of the matter is, there are more than enough quality men to go around. It’s not that they don’t exist. They are out there in droves. It’s just a matter of learning how to locate, attract, and secure meaningful connections with these men. Let’s take a look at 5 ways that you could begin the process of attracting much higher quality men online.
Stop blending in with the crowd
You may love football, belching, and eating Cheetos in your underwear until you can’t move… Oh wait… Maybe that’s just me… Sorry for the visual! Let’s try that again…
You may love traveling, going to the beach, and cuddling up to movies on cold winter nights, but so does Jane, Mary, Susan, and every other woman in the world (Apparently I am still trapped in the 1950’s with my perception of common female names?). If you want to attract higher quality men online, you need to avoid writing in cliches and use words that make your personality explode off the page when men read your profile.
Create an amazing visual story
If you’re attractive we’ll want to date to you. If you’re attractive and your visual story is amazing, we’ll want to be in a relationship with you. What do I mean by visual story?
Each picture is worth 1000 words. Instead of posting several pictures that make you appear attractive, focus on also posting pictures that tell a unique story about your personality, hobbies, and interests.
The more interesting a man is, the busier his life probably is. If you want to distract him from his busy lifestyle, write emails that focus on building interest and igniting a spark. Us men get tired of answering the same boring questions just as easily as you do. When an email comes our way that is actually fun and filled with personality, it’s a breath of fresh air.
The best men online receive a lot of emails, winks, likes, swipe rights, gold stars, virtual high fives, and… okay maybe not the last two. But online dating sites have countless ways to initiate contact and the most in demand men receive a lot of attention. On most weeks prior to being in a relationship, I would receive upwards of 100 contacts a week!
And because these men are receiving so much attention, often times they aren’t performing searches of their own. This is why you need to get pro-active, seek out the men you want to talk to, and then send out highly engaging emails. In this world, you make your own luck. So go out and make it.
Lay the right foundation
The clients I take on for my VIP service often find relationships within 2 months. Why? Because we spend a very long time laying the groundwork for their success before we even send out one message and we treat the process of attracting a quality man like a science.
Think of the online dating world as a series of moving parts, with the written profile, the photo gallery, and the email being the foundation that supports everything else.
If you don’t take the time to learn how to email properly, how to write a flawless online dating profile, and how to build an amazing visual story, the metaphorical online dating roof will collapse on you. You need to enter into the process fully ready to go if you want to reap the most out of online dating and live happily ever after.
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